I read these two books before my marriage. You can not even imagine how rich we become in our relationship.
Throughout my graduation and before the age of 30, I never read a single book on relationships. But due to my inquisitive nature, whenever I entered into a new endeavor, I tried to read a few books related to those endeavors.
We have just celebrated our 1st anniversary, but what I observe in our circumstances is a lot of people are professionally rich and sound but their relationship with their spouses is very poor.
They never read a single book and even our education systems never taught you how to talk with the opposite gender.
Always thought of women as an aid or a sex object, we think beyond that. Read these 2 books and take responsibility to make your relationship rich and powerful.
If you really want to fall in love with young women’s hearts, you must read it.
Some Rich excerpts from the book:
Authors John Gray worked as a relationship counselor, and popular marriage and seminar leader. He tried to elaborate on the difference between men from Mars and Women from Venus.
How to read:
The book contains 307 pages. If you are a newbie reader, read 10 pages every day. 5 pages in the morning and 5 pages in the evening just before going to bed.
Apply every technique and principle with your loved ones and that experience you can write in the comment section. At least you can write thanks notes to me.
Lessons:
- A practical and proven way to communicate with each other, Men and Women have different meanings and understandings of the same word.
- Women are hungry for appreciation and respect. Always give to her
- Women want first satisfaction from the words. she always wants men can listen to her words, Men prefer the process them.
- Women want feelings, touch, and care.
- Always write love letters to your loved ones. I follow these techniques from time to time; these are old techniques but one of the most classic ways to express your feelings.
- Give Hugs and tell her I love you two times a day. As a newbie couple hopes you are doing this. But the maximum output of your relationship you continue till becoming the Grandfather or Grandmother.
- Make affection or cuddle without being sexual.
- Show affection and care in public more than others.
- As a couple, you can use these techniques and see the amazing output of your relationship.
All Men and Women have an equal need for love. When these needs are not fulfilled, it is easy to have our feelings hurt, for which we blame our partner.
_John Gray
2. The five love languages by Gary Chapman
Strengthening Millions of Relationships … One Language at a Time
The author has many years of experience with marriages counselors then he discovered 5 emotional love languages. That every people on this planet can learn and understand.
This book is not written only for couples. As a human being, you must know what the 5 emotional love language is.
Those 5 love languages you use to act as a service. Unconsciously our primary language is love. But we forget to implement it in daily life.
How to read:
The book has written in simple English you hardly require to open a dictionary. Every practical guide is first implemented and then read the next chapters. 7 days is enough to finish this book.
Love is a choice you make every day.
_Gary Chapman
Lessons:
- If you are a parent, Adults, or unmarried, everybody must read this book. Adults can make a huge impact on their relationships.
- Everybody loves their child, but every child does not feel loves
- The book has given umpteen practical pieces of advice on how to talk with your children and feel secure.
- Use the 5 emotional love languages to understand the mystery game of your children.
Discover your 5 Love languages
You can click on the above link and check your 5 primary love languages before or after your marriage.
To know my 5 love languages click it, the screenshot is my 5 primary love languages, and it exactly matches my behavior.
Love is the most powerful word in the world of relationships.
Love can be expressed and received in all five languages. However, if you don’t speak a person’s primary love language, that person will not feel loved, even though you may be speaking the other four. Once you are speaking his or her primary love language fluently, then you can sprinkle in the other four and they will be like icing on the cake.
_Gary Chapman
Conclusion:
There are many books on the relationship to reading before or after your marriage, but I found only these books, and its lesson helped me a lot. Please write in the comment section if you know of any other books.
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